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You can’t do it alone.

This is what resonates the most for me. You can’t do it alone .  No one ever got anything extraordinary done without the knowledge, talent, and support of others.  You need others and they need you. You’re all in this together. You have to be sensitive to the needs of others, listen, ask questions, develop others, provide support, and ask for help.  This was the hardest thing for me as the independent person that I am. Being forced to ask  for help when I just wanted to do it myself? Sure, that's impossible. But, it sounds easier than bringing everyone along with me for the ride.  Then again, if I had to carry the baby, I really would have been an emotional wreck. I kept thinking -  Why can't I just focus a little harder and put some more effort into this and have success. This has worked for me throughout my life. I am not used to failure. But, in the Surrogacy World - going alone - got me no where. Telling my sobby sad story over and over ag

It’s all about expectations. Greatness doesn’t appear on its own. Somebody expects it.

Okay, so you’re thinking: What in the world does this have to do with me this morning? I don't know. That's for you to figure out. For me,  It's about Expecting a Miracle and getting it. The bottom line is that our Surrogate did something great for us. Now, if you are a new to my story,   it’s was all about expectations. Greatness doesn’t appear on its own. Somebody expects it . For us, our baby didn't happen by accident. She put her life, and her family on hold so that we could become parents. That is an amazing thing that she did. So often we slip into our roles and routines – as parent, child, friend or co-worker. And we think others are static entities. They are great people or maybe simply average, or unpredictable or extremely steady. And if they’re not totally static, then we figure any control of how good they are, lies with them. But, the fact is we have so much more power than that. We shape possibilities for others. And others shape possibiliti