IVF Land on Surrogacy World

My Other New Surrogacy Project.... Project Title: What Is The Lived Experience Of Intended Parents During Surrogate Pregnancy And Transition To Parenthood In Relation To The U.S. Healthcare System? That is a mouth full. What does it mean? The term lived experience is used to describe the first-hand accounts and impressions of living as a member of a minority or oppressed group. In layman's terms - How does the Healthcare system oppress Intended Parents. I could go on for days on this subject. The study is being done by the  The University of Texas at Tyler. The potential benefit of the study is that it will be used to set the guidelines for hospitals around the Country. As is my nature, I was the first Intended Parent that volunteered to be interviewed. I want the project to start off heading in the right direction. They are looking for additional Intended Parents that are currently involved in a Surrogacy or have a baby through Surrogacy that is less than

I am about to focus on a new all consuming Surrogacy project. Well I actually have more than one all consuming projects coming up, but for today we will focus on the sharing of the most public aspect of my Surrogacy Story. Today, I am committing to writing a book. It will be a memoir as opposed to a guide book. One man's thoughts about the absurd things that go through his mind while building his family through Surrogacy. Ideally, it should be a page turner rather than something brilliant. The story will need SPICE to work. This stands for Specifics, Places, Incidents, Characters, and Emotions. Naturally, from my perspective, it will take genuine bravery to write an honest memoir. It will be emotionally difficult to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth on a page for publication. However, I feel that I have an important story that only I can tell. And it's a Surrogacy Story. That means it will be filled with truths, half-truth

Surrogacy Chooses You, You Don't Choose it... Surrogacy is a necessary evil for some couples. Nobody wakes up one morning and says "I'm going to find a Surrogate to carry my baby" without years of struggle and thought into the matter. And Finding out that there is NO other option for them. This is not Plan A. It's not even Plan B. It's plan ZZZ. And even then only because we have to. After all other options have been explored. Do we want to? Hell no! But, the alternative, life without a child, a family, is unbearable. At times, it would be so easy to just give up and not have a child. The thought does cross your mind. Why can't we just stop? Why can't we just be happy without a child? Or with the children that you already have in your arms. Think of all the fun things we could do with the money that we are burning away trying to have a child. One that we might not get, even with our best efforts. The desire to proc

The truth, no myths, no trendy responses— just the truth that endures for this Intended Parent about Surrogacy land is that focusing on the future at all times is required. That is the one piece of advice that I would give to a newbie just starting out. Dream. Imagine. Think big. Before the transfer, during the pregnancy, and after the birth. Create your child's life story. You will need your creativity, enthusiasm, and idealism the entire time. The truth is that  focusing on the future is the only thing that will keep you going . The capacity to imagine and articulate exciting future possibilities will strengthen you during the tough times. It’s not something anyone else can do for you, but you must do this for yourself. You have to take a long-term perspective if you’re going to guide people to places they have never been before. And you will be taking friends, family, and strangers along with you on the ride. You are their tour guide. The first or seco

How do you get started with IVF and Surrogacy. You have to say yes to begin things .  You have to say yes to big dreams, You have to say yes to possibilities, you have to say yes to the unknown, you have to say yes to your beliefs,  you have to say yes to difficult challenges,  you have to say yes to sleepless nights, you have to say yes to worry filled days, you have to say yes to collaboration,  you have to say yes to trust,  you have to say yes to gut wrenching choices that often have no right answer,  you have to say yes to facing your fears,  you have to say yes to your heart, and  you have to say yes to faith.    So, here’s the big question:  Are you ready to say yes?

This is a common question Intended Parents get when they tell people for the first time that they are using a Surrogate. The media plays up the horror stories. Surrogate keep Baby - when it happens it's World Wide news. These cases are usually a Traditional Surrogacy done in a place where Surrogacy is illegal. Or at least paying the Surrogate is illegal. Therefore, the parents have no standing to protect themselves. Surrogacy Lawyers play up to this fear. You need to pay us large sums of money to protect your rights as a parent. Because as a future parent there would be nothing more heart-breaking than to lose your child. Your hopes and dreams. So near - and then snatched away from you. When for just a little more money - you could have protected your rights as a parent. Fear drives the marketplace. Now I live in California and am interested in specifically our laws in this State. How do they apply to me? I plan on using a Gestational Carrier - with my DNA.

A few days ago I made a post called " A guys thoughts on Surrogacy. " I read it again today and realized the writing doesn't reflect the title. I wrote about a lack of a guys thoughts on Surrogacy. And that they are missing from the Surrogacy World. My post does match the reality of the situation in that it didn't supply any answers and didn't include and thoughts from a guy. I suppose that I should of just left the title as it is and made a blank post with no words. That would correctly reflect the thoughts shared by the men. It would be a quick read. But, not very informative. I figured that I would share my thoughts on Surrogacy in this post and clean up my missed topic. As a warning, when I started posting on message boards about my opinions I often started them with "I'm a guy." Looking back, I think this was a not so subtle way to say "hold on, I'm going to offend you with what I am about to write." Let's see

I'm looking all over the Internet for "A guys thoughts on Surrogacy" and I can't find anything. Clearly, we are a bunch of deep thinkers and sharers. When I say I can't find anything - I mean nothing. To clarify, I am looking for someone with a story like mine. Heterosexual male, Intended Parent, now ex-intended parent. Who went through the Surrogacy process. I can find Surrogates Stories everywhere. Gay couples with two Intended Fathers, Lawyers, Doctors, and psychologists that have worked with Intended Parents, and Intended Mother stories. Even a few articles about the surrogates husband and how supportive he is - to her journey. But, not a single story that I relate to and go - that's me - that's what I went through. I find it odd that one of the main players in third party reproduction has absolutely no voice. Half of the DNA comes from us. At least usually. And we have nothing of importance to say. We are just a silent support person