IVF Land on Surrogacy World

Welcome Back! Once again I am going to be part of the blogging world.  This Summer we will be traveling the United States and will be sharing what Surrogacy means to me and asking them what Surrogacy means to them. Over the last few years being involved with the Surrogacy community has taken us internationally to Europe, Mexico, and Australia. This Summer we are going to San Diego , Denver , Seattle , Boston , Charlotte , New York , Chicago , and Minnesota .  We also have many new friends that will be joining us in London and August 24th, 2013 we are excited to be honoring over 100 Surrogates at the Salute to Surrogacy Celebration in San Diego, California . We will be keeping you updated with blog posts here and guests blog posts that we will be making on other blogs focused on the Surrogacy community. Surrogacy Together - Blogging For Surrogacy: Over the next 75 days leading up to the Salute to Surrogacy Celebration. We are going to be blogging a...

This is a common question Intended Parents get when they tell people for the first time that they are using a Surrogate. The media plays up the horror stories. Surrogate keep Baby - when it happens it's World Wide news. These cases are usually a Traditional Surrogacy done in a place where Surrogacy is illegal. Or at least paying the Surrogate is illegal. Therefore, the parents have no standing to protect themselves. Surrogacy Lawyers play up to this fear. You need to pay us large sums of money to protect your rights as a parent. Because as a future parent there would be nothing more heart-breaking than to lose your child. Your hopes and dreams. So near - and then snatched away from you. When for just a little more money - you could have protected your rights as a parent. Fear drives the marketplace. Now I live in California and am interested in specifically our laws in this State. How do they apply to me? I plan on using a Gestational Carrier - with my DNA. ...

This is what resonates the most for me. You can’t do it alone .  No one ever got anything extraordinary done without the knowledge, talent, and support of others.  You need others and they need you. You’re all in this together. You have to be sensitive to the needs of others, listen, ask questions, develop others, provide support, and ask for help.  This was the hardest thing for me as the independent person that I am. Being forced to ask  for help when I just wanted to do it myself? Sure, that's impossible. But, it sounds easier than bringing everyone along with me for the ride.  Then again, if I had to carry the baby, I really would have been an emotional wreck. I kept thinking -  Why can't I just focus a little harder and put some more effort into this and have success. This has worked for me throughout my life. I am not used to failure. But, in the Surrogacy World - going alone - got me no where. Telling my sobby sad s...

Okay, so you’re thinking: What in the world does this have to do with me this morning? I don't know. That's for you to figure out. For me,  It's about Expecting a Miracle and getting it. The bottom line is that our Surrogate did something great for us. Now, if you are a new to my story,   it’s was all about expectations. Greatness doesn’t appear on its own. Somebody expects it . For us, our baby didn't happen by accident. She put her life, and her family on hold so that we could become parents. That is an amazing thing that she did. So often we slip into our roles and routines – as parent, child, friend or co-worker. And we think others are static entities. They are great people or maybe simply average, or unpredictable or extremely steady. And if they’re not totally static, then we figure any control of how good they are, lies with them. But, the fact is we have so much more power than that. We shape possibilities for others. And others shape...

There is an ancient phrase "Possession is nine-tenths of the law" that is about land, property, or other tangible items, but I keep thinking that it applies to Surrogacy . During the Surrogacy journey everyone's emotions swing back and forth based on possession. Most people are thinking that "it's an embryo," or " a fetus," and only later "a baby" what is there to possess before the birth? There are many things to possess during the process. A short list is: The thought of a baby. Expecting A Miracle . The Surrogates agreement to Match and join the endeavor. The DNA. The Egg. The Sperm. The Embryo. The Uterus. The Information. The Pregnancy Results. The Heart Beat Results. The Numbers and medical reports from the Dr. Visits. The Pregnancy. The Ultrasound Pictures. The Delivery. The Baby. Most of the time, the main possession during the Surrogacy is information. The open, honest, and unfiltered truth about what is going on ...

One argument that you rarely find in the who's the Mother debate around Surrogacy is that fact that gestational primacy (the Birth Mother is Shinning) leads to unequal parentage determinations by considering different factors for men - genetics, and women - birth. Most States and Countries pretend to know what's best for women. The theory goes - the women might regret giving away the baby at some point in the future, so we will protect her, by making it against the law. Sure, we understand that she is willing to do this BEFORE the embryo transfer, and is BECOMING pregnant on purpose to help another couple have a child, but we the government MUST protect her from possibly thinking it was a bad choice in the future. The Nanny State knows what is best for you. Where are the Gestational Surrogates Equal Protection Rights Regarding Maternity? When a State assign maternity to the woman giving birth, this creates different procedures for establishing m...

One thing that about my experience regarding Surrogacy was always very clear to me. I knew why I was here. We didn't have a uterus, so we had to find one to have a baby. It was a NEED, not  a want. A requirement for us that had no other alternative, but to find a Surrogate. With limited options, our course for action was clear. Priority #1 for having a baby was finding a Surrogate. Now why someone would become a Surrogate is a whole different matter. You hear all kinds of answers. Surrogacy is in my heart I want to help a couple become a family I am full of compassion for others I meet someone that has gone through infertility and they want to help someone.  The answers are different for every individual, and I probably have poor examples, but recently, I found an answer that  I understand, I can relate to, I can appreciate, and I can respect. It was an answer to what happens when the Surrogacy is over , but has a line for me that best ...