IVF Land on Surrogacy World

There is an ancient phrase "Possession is nine-tenths of the law" that is about land, property, or other tangible items, but I keep thinking that it applies to Surrogacy . During the Surrogacy journey everyone's emotions swing back and forth based on possession. Most people are thinking that "it's an embryo," or " a fetus," and only later "a baby" what is there to possess before the birth? There are many things to possess during the process. A short list is: The thought of a baby. Expecting A Miracle . The Surrogates agreement to Match and join the endeavor. The DNA. The Egg. The Sperm. The Embryo. The Uterus. The Information. The Pregnancy Results. The Heart Beat Results. The Numbers and medical reports from the Dr. Visits. The Pregnancy. The Ultrasound Pictures. The Delivery. The Baby. Most of the time, the main possession during the Surrogacy is information. The open, honest, and unfiltered truth about what is going on ...

One thing that about my experience regarding Surrogacy was always very clear to me. I knew why I was here. We didn't have a uterus, so we had to find one to have a baby. It was a NEED, not  a want. A requirement for us that had no other alternative, but to find a Surrogate. With limited options, our course for action was clear. Priority #1 for having a baby was finding a Surrogate. Now why someone would become a Surrogate is a whole different matter. You hear all kinds of answers. Surrogacy is in my heart I want to help a couple become a family I am full of compassion for others I meet someone that has gone through infertility and they want to help someone.  The answers are different for every individual, and I probably have poor examples, but recently, I found an answer that  I understand, I can relate to, I can appreciate, and I can respect. It was an answer to what happens when the Surrogacy is over , but has a line for me that best ...

Things I've learned...... I have figured out where the term Mr. Recipient comes from. I have actually seen it on a lot of websites now and there is always a common link. It is a term used by Surrogacy Agencies that started out as Egg Donor Agencies and then started offering Surrogacy . It seems that when couples are using an egg donor for IVF on themselves they are called the Recipient. Then these websites added Surrogates to the mix, but continue to call the Intended Parents the Recipients. I personally, am not a fan of the term and you will not see it used as a descriptive word on my blog are on  Expect Miracles Surrogacy . One thing that I have really learned during the whole process is that words mean a lot and terminology is very important. I for one will stick with the term Intended Parents.

Things I've learned. OR I haven't learned anything, But these are things that I've Come to Ponder. The Surrogacy Laws in California are all based on Case law as opposed to  laws written by the legislature. That means that people have sued somebody in court and the judges ruling on  that case would be used to decide future cases "like that one." The most significant case in California regarding Surrogacy is the Buzzanca case,  which happened in 1998.  In that case, a married couple used donor egg and donor sperm, and a surrogate.  A month before the birth of the child, the couple divorced, and when the child was turned over to the intended mother, she asked for child support.  The intended father refused to pay, claiming that he was not the parent.  Because we didn't have any law at the time, the trial court found that he was not the father, and the intended mother wasn't the mother, because they weren't genetically the pa...

Things I've learned. OR I haven't learned anything, But these are things that I've Come to Ponder #3 Here is something that I've never heard of before on Surrogacy World. I was looking at an Surrogacy agencies website last night and they were describing a character involved in IVF and Surrogacy that I have never heard of before this very moment. I've been living here for a long time and thought I knew everything. Boy, was I proven wrong. Here is a quote from the agencies website that had me confused. Can you tell where I was stumped? California offers many legal advantages for surrogacy delivery including birth certificates with the recipients’ names as the mother and father. Our recipients come from all over America and all over the world, so distance is never an issue. Recipients are encouraged to keep in touch with their surrogate by phone calls, email, web cam, and several visits whenever possible during the course of pregnancy What is a recipient? I thought t...

Things I've learned. OR I haven't learned anything, But these are things that I've Come to Ponder #2 Why do Military Surrogates continue to talk to the Media? The current article can be found at: http://www.glamour.com/magazine/2010/10/the-most-wanted-surrogates-in-the-world They have a crack investigative teams go on SMO and find a random post about how many Surrogates are in the military and find a Surrogate Agency that is all to happy for some free publicity. And then the magazine slams military Surrogates. Why do Surrogates never learn that the media is not their friend? All they want to do is slam the "Commercial" Surrogate! (Before this article, I have never heard of this term.) Why does the media always have the same angles - 1) Surrogates in India are being taken advantage of by greedy foreigners. Are they really? 2) Military Surrogates are being greedy by using their health care? Health care that they have earned. Is this really greedy and immoral? All th...

Things I've learned. OR I haven't learned anything, But these are things that I've Come to Ponder #1 This is the start of a new series of posts that I will be making where I ramble about my thoughts regarding being an Intended Father (now Father) in a surrogate run world. What is the main story of the journey that the IP's and Surrogate take together? If you were writing for a paper what are the 5 W's, (Who, What, Where, When and Why?) that leap out to you and make this a story? By reading Surrogate and IP's stories on the web I constantly see two different story lines. The surrogate's story is about the pregnancy. The IP's story is about the baby. They are not the same story. We do not have the same experience - from the same event. The basic's are the same for both parties. The who, the what, the where, and the when everyone can agree on. The WHY!!! The Why is a wild card and is all over the place. The Why for the IP is simple - It's this are n...