IVF Land on Surrogacy World

I have started a new blog where I will be sharing my thoughts and stories about Surrogacy. You can follow me there at Expect Miracles Surrogacy . I will still be posting here from time to time my opinions and thoughts as an Intended Father. Thanks for following.

While I enjoy bashing evil people's heads against the wall as much as the next person I am starting to feel like a stalker that's kicking someone when their down. I would stop posting, but I keep getting emails from people thanking me for posting information that they can't find anywhere else or nobody else is sharing. I know people that were unknowingly brought into this scheme and it makes me sick. I will continue to post new information as it becomes available to me. In the meantime, I am working on an ebook that will share positive stories about the Community. So many good rewarding things happen to everyone involved in the Community and we need to share this information. The Project is called Surrogacy Together . Our first ebook is titled "Inspiring Surrogacy Stories." Our Mission  is sharing positive, uplifting stories about Surrogacy and the Surrogate community with the world. When presented with the details someone called it our version of ...

Surrogacy Together - The Power of Teamwork and Shared Leadership is the name of the book that I am working on to share my story. The title covers my experience through the process. Detailed plans, daily follow through, and teamwork carried us to success.  We built a team with well defined roles and multiple leaders to complete our mission. It was a very satisfying and humbling experience. We had a large support network that helped guide us through the rough patches and uncertainty and get us to the other side. Without them the road would at times would have been impossible to navigate. In our case, we had 4 distinct Support teams. While they were all important, not everyone was equal. Some participated for a day, week, or month, while others were involved daily in the entire grinding experience. At this time, I am dividing them into a few simple categories: Professionals - The medical and law team. Mentors - Other IP's and/or Surrogates that have been there - done ...

My Other New Surrogacy Project.... Project Title: What Is The Lived Experience Of Intended Parents During Surrogate Pregnancy And Transition To Parenthood In Relation To The U.S. Healthcare System? That is a mouth full. What does it mean? The term lived experience is used to describe the first-hand accounts and impressions of living as a member of a minority or oppressed group. In layman's terms - How does the Healthcare system oppress Intended Parents. I could go on for days on this subject. The study is being done by the  The University of Texas at Tyler. The potential benefit of the study is that it will be used to set the guidelines for hospitals around the Country. As is my nature, I was the first Intended Parent that volunteered to be interviewed. I want the project to start off heading in the right direction. They are looking for additional Intended Parents that are currently involved in a Surrogacy or have a baby through Surrogacy that is less than ...

I am about to focus on a new all consuming Surrogacy project. Well I actually have more than one all consuming projects coming up, but for today we will focus on the sharing of the most public aspect of my Surrogacy Story. Today, I am committing to writing a book. It will be a memoir as opposed to a guide book. One man's thoughts about the absurd things that go through his mind while building his family through Surrogacy. Ideally, it should be a page turner rather than something brilliant. The story will need SPICE to work. This stands for Specifics, Places, Incidents, Characters, and Emotions. Naturally, from my perspective, it will take genuine bravery to write an honest memoir. It will be emotionally difficult to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth on a page for publication. However, I feel that I have an important story that only I can tell. And it's a Surrogacy Story. That means it will be filled with truths, half-truth...

Surrogacy Chooses You, You Don't Choose it... Surrogacy is a necessary evil for some couples. Nobody wakes up one morning and says "I'm going to find a Surrogate to carry my baby" without years of struggle and thought into the matter. And Finding out that there is NO other option for them. This is not Plan A. It's not even Plan B. It's plan ZZZ. And even then only because we have to. After all other options have been explored. Do we want to? Hell no! But, the alternative, life without a child, a family, is unbearable. At times, it would be so easy to just give up and not have a child. The thought does cross your mind. Why can't we just stop? Why can't we just be happy without a child? Or with the children that you already have in your arms. Think of all the fun things we could do with the money that we are burning away trying to have a child. One that we might not get, even with our best efforts. The desire to proc...

The truth, no myths, no trendy responses— just the truth that endures for this Intended Parent about Surrogacy land is that focusing on the future at all times is required. That is the one piece of advice that I would give to a newbie just starting out. Dream. Imagine. Think big. Before the transfer, during the pregnancy, and after the birth. Create your child's life story. You will need your creativity, enthusiasm, and idealism the entire time. The truth is that  focusing on the future is the only thing that will keep you going . The capacity to imagine and articulate exciting future possibilities will strengthen you during the tough times. It’s not something anyone else can do for you, but you must do this for yourself. You have to take a long-term perspective if you’re going to guide people to places they have never been before. And you will be taking friends, family, and strangers along with you on the ride. You are their tour guide. The first or seco...