The Book

When we first went to our RE. Dr. Zouves he gave us a book that he wrote called Expecting Miracles. Yes, that is a very interesting name.

Anyways, I remember looking at the book when we first got started and thinking - I can't read this book. All of these people have same serious problems and that's not us. Besides, I don't want to hear the hard luck stories and the struggles someone else has gone through.

Just give me the success stories, because that is how we are going to storm through IVF. As one big long success story.

We just stumbled upon the book again recently and have been reading the stories and understand them for the first time. We read the book and go - I remember when we faced that problem.

Their stories have become our story.

It is amazing how your viewpoint changes when you have become one of them.

Comments

Martin said…
Absolutely.

You start out certain that you'll never have to go THAT far.

Month or years later you are sitting here wondering how did I become one of these stories.
August 28, 2008 at 9:48 AM
Anonymous said…
Embrace being one of "those" stories, b/c soon when you become one of "those" success stories with a background of struggles overcome along the way, it will make where you got to and the journey to get there all the more meaningful. It's like when I was in college and in general the kids that had to work to pay for their degree many times seemed to appreciate the opportunity to get it more, and probably gained more from the experience as a whole. Besides, when your kids are snotty teenagers yelling at you that you don't love them, you'll have a pretty good comeback. lol
August 28, 2008 at 9:58 AM
Anonymous said…
so true...I have a book that I breezed through at the early parts of our IF journey.

I'm rereading it and find myself crying or bobbing my head in silent agreement or saying aha! We see, hear and read what we are ready to accept, I guess.
August 28, 2008 at 12:14 PM
IVF Land on Surrogacy World said…
Arpee,

There is an old Chinese saying:

When the student is ready the teacher will appear.
August 28, 2008 at 12:42 PM
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