This is what resonates the most for me.
You can’t do it alone.
No one ever got anything extraordinary done without the knowledge, talent, and support of others.
You need others and they need you. You’re all in this together. You have to be sensitive to the needs of others, listen, ask questions, develop others, provide support, and ask for help.
This was the hardest thing for me as the independent person that I am. Being forced to ask for help when I just wanted to do it myself?
Sure, that's impossible. But, it sounds easier than bringing everyone along
with me for the ride.
Then again, if I had to carry the baby, I really would have been an emotional wreck.
I kept thinking -
Why can't I just focus a little harder and put some more effort into this and
have success. This has worked for me throughout my life.
I am not used to failure.
But, in the Surrogacy World - going alone - got me no where.
Telling my sobby sad story over and over again was self inflicted torture.
My own personal ground hog day, where I was forced to ask the world for
pity and help.
Again, And Again, And Again.
I learned that in Surrogacy World you don't get to hold back. The entire
experience requires that you share of yourself.
We are reminded of this now - every day as we work with other Intended Parents and Surrogates.
We’re reminded of it not only by the new people who share their stories with us, but also by the fact that we’ve been working collaboratively for years with surrogates to find our own way.
We could never have done what we’ve done without the caring support and involvement of so many other people. The Surrogacy World is a small extraordinary community.
And now - satisfied with my results -
My fears behind me -
I have entered the mushy phase.