It’s all about expectations. Greatness doesn’t appear on its own. Somebody expects it.


Okay, so you’re thinking: What in the world does this have to do with me this morning?

I don't know. That's for you to figure out.

For me,  It's about Expecting a Miracle and getting it. The bottom line is that our Surrogate did something great for us.

Now, if you are a new to my story,  it’s was all about expectations. Greatness doesn’t appear on its own. Somebody expects it. For us, our baby didn't happen by accident.

She put her life, and her family on hold so that we could become parents. That is an amazing thing that she did.

So often we slip into our roles and routines – as parent, child, friend or co-worker. And we think others are static entities.

They are great people or maybe simply average, or unpredictable or extremely steady. And if they’re not totally static, then we figure any control of how good they are, lies with them. But, the fact is we have so much more power than that.

We shape possibilities for others. And others shape possibilities for us.

The good parent is relentlessly: challenging, and encouraging, jostling and teaching, coaching, holding feet to the fire, and especially believing some more, and pointing out and celebrating results.

If you followed my story you will know that I was working on my parenting skills the whole time.

Good friends do the same thing.

Great parents, great friends, and great people create a space of possibility. And the last thing they do is give up on their beliefs, faith, and expectations.
After multiple attempts and years of struggle we now have an 8 1/2 month old healthy baby.
And things couldn't be better.


Comments

Cyn said…
It's so great to hear from you! It's amazing to me that she is already 8.5 months old. It's also amazing that she really does look just like her daddy, but is so unbelievably beautiful!!
So glad everyone had expectations!
May 19, 2011 at 5:45 PM
IVF Land on Surrogacy World said…
As important as our expectations were in the whole process I think the most important part is that someone did something Great for us.
May 19, 2011 at 11:05 PM
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