IVF Land on Surrogacy World

Christy has already bought thousands of outfits for Paco. Now we don't know if Paco is a Boy or Girl yet so she can't get to cute in her selections. I have told her to wait until we have a baby in our arms to buy clothes. Diapers are enough for the first 6 months. Maybe, even longer. Diapers and Blankets - Why would you need anything else? Christy came home with this sweatshirt and I told her that I would let my boy wear it. Her response was "you will not be dressing our child." She said it like I was being punished. I don't think she understands that the child will have a mother - so of course I will not be dressing the child. DUH. Except of course, when I babysit. My statement though did have one important effect. It slowed down her clothes buying for at least a day. And when she started back-up I have yet to see a pink outfit. My big question though is - while I would understand this would be a girls outfit if it had a pink pony, flower, or...

With one Mexican Surrogacy under way I am looking at doing the International Surrogacy Double Trouble. Why do the same exact thing again when there is a whole world to explore. One option is Canada Surrogacy. The will take US couples. The weather is great in the Summer. The price is right at $5,600 Canadian which is around $5,200 USD . It's an English speaking country - at least on the West Coast. And it would be a nice safe place to visit - a country where they are not chopping off people's heads on a daily basis. This would be a plus in their column. Another option is Panama. Or actually Panama City. We are back to a 3rd world country and your back to Spanish. However, it's sunny and warm year-round. And would be the bigger adventure. They will provide surrogates for a fee, but we would of course expect to bring our own. My Motto: Have surrogate - will travel. I am like a woman - worried about my biological clock and in a rush for my next child. Not Paco, who is on his ...

The question now is - Do we have a Boy or a Girl? Since we have been using Paco as the Beta name for our Baby that means I would expect to need to change the name to Paca if we are having a girl. In Spanish it's simple the Boy get's an "O" at the end of their name and the girls gets a "A". So the debate is Paco or Paca? We are having the Nuchal done on March 1st which is 12 weeks 6 days. There is a very good chance that we will find out the sex at this time based on other couples experience's. Most couples that have gotten the Nuchal done earlier have found out and by waiting to the last day possible to get ours done we hope to increase our chance of success in finding out the sex. Why wait to find out later. When we can find out now. In the meantime, I have found a picture of Paca already and know what she might look like - Here is Paca:

This is YOUR story, YOUR surrogacy. YOU get to decide how to share, how to feel, how to deal! This quote is a recent comment from Cyn and I have a long reply. Her Statement and my answer: This is YOUR story - False YOUR surrogacy - False YOU get to decide how to share - True - With Boundaries how to feel - True how to deal! - True This is simply not MY Story or MY Surrogacy. It is - OUR Story OUR Surrogacy I am not alone in this process. There is no I or ME in Surrogacy, But there is an US. (warning: this is a team sport metaphor. There's no I in Team) Sure I am in charge of my feelings and how I deal with daily news and updates of our progress. The main issue though - is that I get to decide how to share the story. OR actually my idea of my side of OUR story. This is a tricky thing to do. That is why I am still the only IF that I know of with a US surrogate that is writing about their experience. It's not easy. I can't freely write all of my thoughts and feelings....

Winning Cures All....That's what I keep telling myself. We have a wonderfully boring pregnancy up to this point. Everything is going well and we are now 12 weeks old. 12 weeks old and with a strong healthy heartbeat, growing on pace, and clearly winning by every definition of the word. With great news like this to share you think that I would be posting updates like crazy and sharing my excitement on a daily basis. But, I can't - or at least haven't been able to post - for two weeks now. I have had a bad case of writer's block. OR maybe just good manners. OR maybe I just don't have the ability to share my fears. Rational fears that are better left unspoken. But, grip me just the same. And define my experience like no other. I want to shake them, I try really hard, I am not a pessimist by nature, but I keep reading blogs that are not positive in their story and are in fact devastating. Like this , and this , and this , and this . I know from my own experience that a ...

And here is a picture to show the alien that we brought back. Paco WEEK 10 - 3D Ultrasound The Heart Beat is 169 and the size is in the right growth range for his age. The Celebration is on.