Wisdom isn’t cheap, and we pay for it with pain.

Today is our nuchal scan. The happy thoughts of the test are few. One positive result is that we should get to find out the sex of the baby. That is fun and exciting, but really "just the spoon full of sugar to make the medicine go down" as Mary Poppins would say.

One silver lining, in a test full of horrors.

The real fact of the test is that we will get a number. They will tell us what our chances are of having a child with Downs Syndrome.

Not a definitive number that puts your fears to rest, but a vague number that just brings on more questions. An answer that might not bring peace, but doubt.

And maybe more tests if we have a negative result......

Our peaceful, boring, healthy pregnancy could get spun around today. Or worse, simply put in limbo for weeks, so that we can do nothing, but worry.

Oh, the joys of parenthood.

Today, we will get our child's Downs number.....

It will be 1 in ____________


20 yrs 1 in 2000
30 yrs 1 in 900
35 yrs 1 in 356
36 yrs 1 in 240
38 yrs 1 in 180
40 yrs 1 in 110
42 yrs 1 in 70
44 yrs 1 in 40


You can fill in the blank with any of the numbers and it doesn't matter. The key phrase tells it all:

"1 in."

That means that someone will be that one.

Until proven otherwise, the fear is there that you are the one.

Oh, the joys of parenthood.

2 comments:

Cyn said...

I'll be thinking of you all today!

IVF Land on Surrogacy World said...

It will be a long day. The test isn't until 3pm and some of the results (bloodwork) will not even be available until tomorrow at best.

Let's hurry up and wait.