IVF Land on Surrogacy World

Information about mexico ivf treatment Mexico IVF and Surrogacy - A Valid Option Going into the Surrogacy World I had some pre-conceived ideas on how things would work and wasn't necessarily flexible on my needs. The list was short, but clear. My children needed to be born in Southern California. It was limited to LA, Orange County, or San Diego. That about summed up my needs. I was comfortable with all of the other aspects of the journey and didn't see much need for a lot of concerns about anything else. Christy, would find a Surro that was easy to work with and friendly and everything would go smooth. No worries from me. I figured that pregnancy was a women's issue and Chisty and the Surro would figure it out together. Now that I have lived on Surrogacy World for a while my thoughts have changed. My only demand in the process - where my child was going to be born wasn't a concern anymore. No longer concerned with where the Child is born we now had a whole world of loc...

As you start off with a new journey you want to look at all of the options. India sounds like a good choice after our last go around, you basically have no contact with the surro and the prices are very cheap. You get the experience of traveling the world and an amazing story to tell your children about how far you were willing to go for them. Some of the down falls are - your traveling the world. Think about flying for at least 15 hours to land in a place like Mexico. And then having to spend over a month there if everything goes well. Is there a closer option? Well yes,  what Panama offers is almost identical to India and it's a lot closer to home. However, they are just starting out in the IVF vacation field and do you want to be a guinea pig and find out how things will work? So Panama is out based on the fact that they are to new to the field. India emails me all of the information and looks pretty good. I read a few blogs of people that have gone this way. They all wr...

A poster has questioned my feelings towards my last surrogate. I tried to make a joke that didn't hit the right tone in one of my prior threads called "what is there not to like about surrogacy". Here is the part of the post in question: Of course, I don't have a surro at this time, and in the past I have never had a bad experience with my surro. In fact, I love my surro, and all other surro's, at all times. My future surro, whomever she is, is the best. Anyways, let's get on with this post and explain myself. Using a point of reference that hopefully everyone can understand, I would say that our first relationship with a surrogate was very much like your relationship with your first boyfriend/girlfriend. It starts out all rosy with everyone happy for you and lots of good feelings. You hit a rough spot and try to work through it. Then times get tough and you don't want to let go and move on after all of the time that has been invested. You hold...

I think that I see the smurf's different than some of the other posters. I don't see any of them only posting in smurf threads - they are actually all over the message boards and are amazingly well rounded and thoughtful in their posts. They bring a special attitude to the board that helps take away some of the stress that we face everyday on Surrogacy World. When thinking about the Smurf's I am reminded of a speech by a basketball coach. Stick with me - this is not another dumb sports story. This is one of the best speeches ever. They play it ever year at the start of basketball season. I could watch it every day - and tear up every time. Yes, it is that moving. Watch the video. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ePXlkqkFH6s Jim Valvano was a basketball coach that was diagnosed with metastatic bone cancer at age 46 and died a year later. Weeks before he passed away he announced the start of a new foundation at an ESPN awards banquet. The motto of the organization wou...

Being new to posting I am the one who broke the rule recently by mentioning that it exists. Oops! I will compare this to my experience as a basketball coach and then an administrator for my basketball program. I started a few basketball teams and coached them all (this is how I meet Christy). I had a very happy program and never got any complaints. My program grew and grew to the point that I needed to hire coaches to coach the extra teams. From my own success as a coach I turned into an administrator of the program. My coaches where all high school coaches and we were coaching 3rd-8th graders so my staff was highly qualified. As the administrator my experience changed the parents started to come up to me and complain about their child's experience and how frustrated they were with the coach. Later, I would talk to the coach about the situation and they would be confused. They would say - that parent loves what I am doing and they are my biggest supporter. They would ask me...

Now that I have your attention. I need your help naming our Surro's. Since we don't have them now I need to come up with name's for them. Our future Surro's just doesn't have a good ring to it. You girls play the baby name game all of the time so you have some practice at this activity. So instead of name that baby - let's name those surro's. I was thinking of giving them each the name's of a fertility goddess. It seems like a good fit. Below are some examples, but feel free to nominate your own name. Either way be sure and tell us why we should use your names. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fertility_goddess Fertility goddess names The fertility goddesses are the female deities to watch over and promote fertility, pregnancy, and birth in many polytheistic cultures. List of fertility goddesses and related deities and individuals * Ajysyt * Ala * Ama-arhus * Aphrodite * Arianrhod * Artemis * Astarte * Bast * Bendis * Brigid * Cybel...

My biggest issue with surrogacy is loss of control. We have not gone all the way to a live birth so I have not experienced an entire journey first hand, but you hear stories of out of control surro's. I am sure that it's just like the nightly news where the wildest story gets the headline - but the headlines play into your fears. Once those embroy's are transfered all sense of control is lost. They were safe and protected in the petri dish. Now they are loose in the womb and struggling to survive. You want to help them settle in and find a safe home for the next few months, but you are helpless and can't help them. I would offer to hold them in place - but that would be really awkward! You only have one source for communication with them and that is through your surro. What did she say? How did she say it? What was the meaning behind her words? Sure she said this, but what did she really mean? Can you break the code and find out what is really going on? When did t...

We have already raised two kids together so I understand the difference between coaching kids and parenting. We have gone through the ups and downs of raising children and are ready for another go. This is not a decision that we are making lightly. We have talked this over with many people in the surrogacy world. Women that have not just scene the good times and the bad, but lived it for themselves. The journey will not be for the meek of heart. Someone that needs to be the center of attention need not apply. Someone that is always needing others to validate them need not apply. If you enjoy drama daily you need not apply. Basically, this journey needs the best of the best. I think that only 1-2% of the surro's out there are ready for this situation. Our surro's will need to be very mature and be very comfortable in their own skin. They know who they are and are happy. Someone who has lived in the surrogacy world for a long time so that she knows what to expect. Thes...

We were told about the worse case scenario and asked how we could give parental support to all of the children. Here is my answer. We can't base all of our choices just on the odds. Our first set of twins had a 95% chance of reaching a live birth after having heart beats and neither of them made it. Also, if we lived our life in fear of the worse case scenario we wouldn't be moving forward at all. Since so far IVF has sucked for us!!!! Our worse case scenario is not having too many kids - it's having none. That is our reality. I am not sure where the lack of parental attention would come from. I have never seen John and Kate plus 8. Let me give you my background with kids. For the last 20 years I have run youth sports leagues as business. I am usually working with about 300 kids at a time and during the winter it's over 1,000 and I pretty much know them all. Normally, I coach basketball and see about 20 kids per hour for 4 hours a night. I know them all by name ...

We are expecting to have two surro's on our next journey if we can find the right combination of personalities. Based on the size of the family we desire and out time frame this was our doctor's suggestion. Personally, we are big sharers so I don't see it being a secret - just the opposite - I think it is a unique and special journey that I want to let everyone enjoy. Maybe you have noticed - we will tell you who we are and what we are about - besides do we really have any privacy in the surro world? Here are a few of our reason's. We have already been down this road with no success for about 2 years. At this time we have about an 18 month window to use Christy's eggs and we want 4-5 babies. Any failed cycle takes away 2 months. At our age in the system we have a 35% chance of a live birth with a fresh transfer. This goes below 10% with a frozen cycle. With our last tries both of our fresh babies stuck, while none of the frozen stood a chance. Basically...

Actually, I have two people that are my ideal surrogate - or at least I need to combine two people to make my perfect surrogate. My perfect surro would be a combination of Santa Claus and the tooth fairy. I would like to just pick Santa Claus since he has a lot of great qualities. He is always happy and very prompt with delivery. And best of all his gifts are free. He does have some negatives though. I am not very comfortable with a bearded guy carrying my child. He also has a BMI issue and a very poor diet of cookies. Also, his red face could be signs of a drinking problem. The tooth fairy would be a good pick, however, she does want body parts back in return and I am scared about which one she might want. She is very sneaky how she takes things from under you when you are sleeping - I am not 100% sure she is trustworthy. It seems that she has a BMI problem of her own in that she is very skinny and I don't think she is big enough to carry my child. So if we could com...

This story was originally posted by Christy on expect miracles . Jon's mom and I were chatting today and she was asking if I am an "IM" is Jon the "IP" ....I told her that technically Jon is a "PIF" but hopes to become an "IF" and that I am a "PIM" and hope to be an "IM". Together we are currently "PIP"s. A little while later out of the blue she says I'm an "IG" and I corrected her, she is a "PIG" So now she is telling people she is a proud PIG Only in the surrogacy world would anyone get this!

This is a question that I have to answer. I am going to repeat the question here so everyone knows where I am starting from. How do you feel about the necessity of taking this journey? I don't have an infertility problem - unless you want to call Christy a problem. I actually signed up for this journey and thought that it was a great idea at the time. I actually told Christy it was what I wanted to do before she even thought about it as an option. She told me she was infertile and I said "great"!! After going through all of the trials and tribulations I am even more excited about building my family through IVF and surrogacy. I truly believe that it's a better idea now than in the beginning, but for completely different reasons. Yes, I know what your thinking - every family has a crazy one - and we found him. At the start of the process I am thinking what is not to like about IVF and surrogacy. From the media stories you get some ideas in your head - okay - I can pick ...

Well here I am moving into my new home. It is located on IVF land on Surrogacy World. Originally, I thought that I would visit for a short time and pick up a baby. Our more likely, have an extended stay as I build a complete family. Now after a few tries without a child it is clear that I am moving into IVF land for the long haul. From reading other Blogs it seems like the thing to do at a certain point in the IVF struggle. I am a little concerned about posting a blog about my journey. IVF Land and Surrogacy World is dominated by women and the few men that speak seem to be damaged or at least a little twisted. I guess the first question that I have is can a man stay a man while talking about his thoughts and feelings? Also, can I really share a man's point of view without creating a backlash from the women who define the experience?

As a first time reader you are going to be scratching your head at many of the first 20 posts on this blog. They were posted on a message board and many of them were answering questions that are not backed up with information in the answer or on this blog. I am building a whole world here at IVF Land and Surrogacy World. It is filled with interesting people and wild stories. As you can imagine it takes a long time to tell the story of an entire world and we will grow and develop the story line over time. You will learn more about the characters in due time and now that we are further along in the adventure this blog will be the main home for our adventure. In the meantime, you need to know that this story is interactive and your comments and questions will help us share a deeper side to the journey. And help you learn more about IVF Land on Surrogacy World. We look forward to hearing from you!