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We have a healthy baby girl in our hands.

C-section is set for tonight. Time TBA.

We just got a phone call that our surrogate is in labor so we are off to the hospital. Her water hasn't broken. This news has got me to stop calling the hospital to verify procedures with them. This has been my project for the day. We will find out how things work through live fire. Our baby might be here soon. We are off.

We have reached the hardest stage of the process. For the first time we have not all been in agreement. Our baby is breech with her foot in the first position. Ready to kick her way out. If she does this and dangles her foot out - she can stangle herself to death. Fear has set in. At least with Christy. She believes that the baby is safer on the outside then on the inside - so wants her out right away. Our surrogate wants to wait and see if the baby will flip and go head down so that she can have a VBAC and not a C-section. Then there is me - I am not as convinced of the danger as Christy is, but believe it to be true. I am most interested in a September birthday. In most sports leagues the age cut off is August 31st with the new year starting September 1st. This means that if our baby is born on or before August 31st - she will be the youngest player in the league. If she is born on September 1st or after - she will be the oldest player in the league. ...

Today was going to be the day for a few minutes. The Dr. offered to do a C-section yesterday which to us all by surprise. And we passed on the offer. Today our surrogate was open to the idea - we called the Dr. to take him up on the offer and he said "no." "Nothing is going to happen until the next appointment." Which is next Tuesday. At which point, I am sure that he will tell us - we are scheduled for Thursday or Friday let's go with that appointment. So it's on for September.

The topic comes up - How do the Intended Parents bond with the child when it is being carried by someone else so far away from them. I think that this is such a silly question. The soul burns the connection into the parents and child even before conception and it grows from there regardless of time or distance. We see the earliest 4D pictures of our child and I am told "she looks like you". I in turn see my parents. And Grand Parents. And Great Grand Parents. After that my memory of seeing family pictures fades, but I can clearly see the fifth generation of my family under construction from her very first photo. At 15 weeks old. The connection is clear and it is strong. I've known her for generations. Generations of history - passed on to the newest family member. There is no rational explanation of how this connection develops, but it is there instantly. You find it told over and over again through stories of twins separated at birth. Or Through countless stories through...

Today, we saw the Doctor and there are some twist and turns. Literally, a 180 degree turn. We are now back to being a breech baby. Feet down and head up. Who would of thought that the child would be difficult? The bottom line is that she could come any day, but we have been given our expiration date. A C-section is scheduled for September 2nd. If she turns again by then - the plan is to skip the C-section and induce labor in which case a September 3rd date is planned. The crazy disturbing fact that I didn't like about our meeting with the doctor today is that this is the first stage in the whole process that the doctor can not give me a percentage of probability. I can't function without odds. This is really frustrating for me. I mean - how hard is it to say that she has a 5% chance of coming today and then a 6% chance tomorrow ramping up to a 90% chance of being here September 2nd. Instead, we are told "she will come when she comes." Where...