Dropping the "I"........

One of the few blogs that I read that is written by a father is ending. The blog xbox4nappyrash was about a couple trying to get pregnant and have a baby. Over 400 posts later they have a child and the blog has outlived it's topic - so it is ending a natural death and there will be no more posts.

With that thought in my head - I have to ask - what do I do with my blog?

I am not currently in IVF land on Surrogacy World trying to have a baby.

That experience is over.

We were successful. We have a baby.

We climbed the mountain and won.

What do you do after you have it all?

Fade to Black?

So many times in the movies the original is great and then the sequel stinks.

It is still to early to tell where life takes us next, but I know where I am today, and
the first step I need to take.

Today, I am dropping the "I" from my name.

I know what your thinking "there's no I in your name."
"This dude sure is dense."

For many years, we have been called "Intended Mother," "Intended Father," and "Intended Parents."

Or

IM, IF, and IP for short.

We embraced the names because they described us to a "T" and it was who we were.

Well, it no longer describes who we are. In the present tense.

We have changed.

With the edition of our baby the "Intended" part of our life ended.

I think that being a parent is very much like being pregnant.
You are pregnant or not, there is no such thing as being a little pregnant.

Well, there is no such thing as being a little bit of a parent.

Either you are a parent or not.

There is no such thing as being "parent-elect" like there is a "President-elect."

We were not elected parents and are waiting to be sworn in, as the current outgoing
parents finish their term.

The minute our baby was born we instantly became parents.

No if's, and's, or Intended's about it.

A Mom, A Dad, A Baby, A Family.

Sure - there might be "Intended Parents Part 2" in the future.

But, for now we are simply like everyone else with a new born -

A Mother, A Father, and Parents.

Comments

Rebekah said…
Love it...! :) The way it should be - now instead of stories of IVF and cycling and pregnancy ups and downs we get to hear all about (hopefully) you being a dad and life with the Princess...! :)
September 27, 2010 at 5:49 AM
Cyn said…
And I am SO thrilled that you are!! It seems the logical conclusion for almost every blog I've read about becoming parents is to either close up shop soon or rename it and tell us all about how wonderful parenthood or the baby is. I think it comes down to the writer. Some people LOVE this outlet and for others is was a way to cope.
I promise to not harass whichever decision you make, so long as FB is active. :)
September 27, 2010 at 7:09 AM
IVF Land on Surrogacy World said…
RebekahRose,

That's what I am trying to figure out. This has been my story about my thoughts specifically about IVF and Surrogacy. Not Chrity's view or our view.

I am not sure how parenting follows the vibe I want.
September 28, 2010 at 2:09 AM
IVF Land on Surrogacy World said…
Cyn,

You can stalk Christy all you want. I will pass on the baton.
September 28, 2010 at 2:10 AM
IVF Land on Surrogacy World said…
Rhonda,

All I can say is whew! I can breath again. Thanks for the help.
September 28, 2010 at 2:11 AM
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