One of the few blogs that I read that is written by a father is ending. The blog xbox4nappyrash was about a couple trying to get pregnant and have a baby. Over 400 posts later they have a child and the blog has outlived it's topic - so it is ending a natural death and there will be no more posts.
With that thought in my head - I have to ask - what do I do with my blog?
I am not currently in IVF land on Surrogacy World trying to have a baby.
That experience is over.
We were successful. We have a baby.
We climbed the mountain and won.
What do you do after you have it all?
Fade to Black?
So many times in the movies the original is great and then the sequel stinks.
It is still to early to tell where life takes us next, but I know where I am today, and
the first step I need to take.
Today, I am dropping the "I" from my name.
I know what your thinking "there's no I in your name."
"This dude sure is dense."
For many years, we have been called "Intended Mother," "Intended Father," and "Intended Parents."
IM, IF, and IP for short.
We embraced the names because they described us to a "T" and it was who we were.
Well, it no longer describes who we are. In the present tense.
We have changed.
With the edition of our baby the "Intended" part of our life ended.
I think that being a parent is very much like being pregnant.
You are pregnant or not, there is no such thing as being a little pregnant.
Well, there is no such thing as being a little bit of a parent.
Either you are a parent or not.
There is no such thing as being "parent-elect" like there is a "President-elect."
We were not elected parents and are waiting to be sworn in, as the current outgoing
parents finish their term.
The minute our baby was born we instantly became parents.
No if's, and's, or Intended's about it.
A Mom, A Dad, A Baby, A Family.
Sure - there might be "Intended Parents Part 2" in the future.
But, for now we are simply like everyone else with a new born -
A Mother, A Father, and Parents.