Mr. Inspiring

Check it out! Someone thinks that I am inspiring.

Really! go to Our Surrogacy Adventure and read how I inspired her post, but notice that I didn't inspire her enough to be added to her blogroll.

This is what I am talking about when I say that we meet new friends on our adventure. This would be a prime example.

Take note, if you women that are reading my blog want me to post more that is how you get it done - stroke my ego. Men really are that simple.

Now here is my response to the heart of her post - why do I blog?

This is the point when almost everyone says "so that friends and family can follow our journey".

That's not me.

I want my family to be able to enjoy the excitement of our new addition and don't want to take them on the rollercoaster ride with us. They are really supportive, but we have to go through enough already without taking our entourage with us every step of the way. We just want to give them the happy days.

So then, who is the audience that I want to reach?

  • Current Intended Parents - Other couples that are on the same path as us.
  • Future Intended Parents - Newbies that are looking to other that have been there to guide them.
  • Our Surrogates - Who deserve to hear the Intended Fathers perspective.
  • All other Surrogates - Who deserve to hear a Man's view of how they help build a family.

Why did I start this blog?

Simply put, so many people that we have meet over the internet have come to support us through our struggles. They have volunteered to fight our fight and get in the trenches with us to join our cause.

The support had been so overwhelming that I felt it was my responsibility to join the conversation. I really wasn't sure how to go about doing that though.

At first, I started to post on a message board and that was a little weird. It was like sneaking into the girls locker room as the only male. Without the joy of all of the girls being naked. Except, when you figure that most of the girls on the message board are pregnant the naked part is really weird - so no part of the message board was a good fit for me.

That sent me packing to find my own blog site. To find a home for my thoughts.

As more and more people have jumped on our bandwagon to support us I realized that our team wasn't just the two of us and our surrogate.

  • Our team has grown to include everyone else on Surrogacy World.
  • Our team is larger than I ever imagined.
  • Our team continues to grow on a daily basis.

As our team has blossomed before our eyes, so has our responsibilities.

We are required to share our story to help others along their path. To help them know that they are making the right decision for their family. To let them know that they are not alone with their thoughts about their struggle.

To help the next person the way others have helped us.

That is how I ended up here posting on a blog for the whole world to read.


Jaymee said...

first, give a girl a chance to update.

second, my family goes through this with me because they are the type of people who go through your medicine cabinet. also because in two generations we have not had a new member get her in the old fashioned way. i wish that they would stay out of this.

third, in older posts i have written about the dirth of information from the IP side, and just didn't want to repeat myself.

thanks for writing about me. i promise to keep stroking your ego, if you promise to keep on posting.

i am going to add you right NOW.

Jenn said...

I will say I am very excited to be following your blog and your journey. I appreciate your POV and cheer you on in all aspects of this journey 100%!!! Blog on! (just stay out of the locker room... hehe)

IVF Land on Surrogacy World said...


My family will say - that I only tell them what they need to know, and that I don't think they need to know anything.

I will continue to post away. We will see if I can continue to be inspiring over the long haul or if I turn into a boring read over time.

Thanks for adding me to your list.

IVF Land on Surrogacy World said...


Cheerleaders are always a good addition to the team. You can never have enough.

Anonymous said...

Fabulous post - and it's always wonderful to get a man's perspective. I'm dying to know what goes on in there (What, not much you say? ;-p, lol)
I'm hoping to be a gestational surrogate someday and desperately lapping up every bit of information on the subject I can.
Thanks for a great read :)

IVF Land on Surrogacy World said...

Our teachers and mothers spend years telling us to be quite and then we grow up and get in relationships and then we get complaints on how we never talk.

Yet, another mixed message that the women in our lives send us.

We think alright - We just don't share.

Enjoy the process and have fun getting matched.

Cyn said...

I had wondered why I was getting a creepy 'someone's watching me' feeling everytime I checked out the site. :)

Your absence has been noted though and I will continue to track you down and hopefully get some interesting opinions from you that help me to continue to think and grow.

Anonymous said...

Very excited to be a part of the "team" and so thankful that you put your thoughts out there. I have you "bookmarked" lol

IVF Land on Surrogacy World said...


I am okay with the wording "someone is watching me", but creepy is not a good word to describe me.

I prefer "Everybody's All American".

IVF Land on Surrogacy World said...


Welcome to the team. By the way, bedsides team members and cheerleaders, we need boosters. I am still waiting for the first check from Cyn.

We are going to sell personal seat licenses to our Boosters. I figure for $5,000 our donors can get a seat in the delivery room.

There will only be a limited number of seats so the donor's need to get their check in soon to reserve their spot.

Murgdan said...

Thanks for stopping by my did just happen to stop by on the day I was making fun of the guys who can't wasn't sexist I promise, I'm an equal opportunity cynic! ;-)

Great to read your perspective. Oh, and creepy about the tooth and the mouse. Ick. I don't want to not need males (they just have to be able to spell).

In Due Time said...

Coming over from ICLW...

It's nice to see what the guy is thinking... don't stop now!

IVF Land on Surrogacy World said...

In Due Time,

Let me tell you how we work around here, it's really simple. Ego strokes = posts.

I missed the ego stoke in your comment. Maybe next time.

IVF Land on Surrogacy World said...


Just because I am a guy sharing his thoughts doesn't make me sensitive.

Actually, I am very okay with sexist comments. Stick around here long enough and you will find a bunch.

And I can spell - especially with a spell checker following me around.

Anonymous said...

Oh my gosh I bet your surros (aka fertility goddesses) will love having front row seats sold to the birth ROTFL Didn't you say you'd be in the hallway??? hee hee

IVF Land on Surrogacy World said...


Who do you think is going to outside selling the souvenirs? They wont sell themselves you know.

Irish Diplomacy said...

I think that hearing your point of view is refreshing. I am matched as a TS and have more communication with the IF than the IM. It has been a great change from the past, and while I think my IM is awesome~ I do like the different perspective he gives. Excellent idea. :)