I was asked does the Surrogate help relieve some of the fears that Intended Parents have during the process. Here is a list of fears that I have about going through IVF and Surrogacy that having nothing to do with who is the Surrogate.
Financial - Stands alone on the list - it is actually a part of almost every question.
Will it be successful?
Time - Our eggs are in worse shape every month.
Time - How will all of the Doctor Appointments effect work?
Cost of optional procedures like ICSI or PGD. Are they a good buy?
Do they help our hurt? What about survival of the fittest?
How many embryos to transfer Fresh?
How many embryos to transfer frozen?
Advantage/Disadvantage of Raising Twins and Twin Pregnancies? How about Triplets?
How do you feel about Embryo Donation or Stem Cell Research?
Did you get a negative beta?
Are you back to the starting line?
Are you down 15-20k or more?
Did the HPT come in positive?
What did the Beta say?
Did the Beta Double?
Did the Beta Double Again?
One or two? OR three and Four?
Is there a heart beat?
What is the heart rate?
Is the baby growing at the right rate?
How are the measurements?
How do you deal with all of these?
How do you feel about amniocentesis?
How do you feel about Congenital anomalies?
How do you feel about pregnancy complications?
Are you prepared to face:
Low birth weight
Death shortly after birth
Last on my list is - Do Friends/Family Approve?
And then finish with the Psychological and Emotional Cost of Infertility. With loads of isolation.