When does a surrogacy end?
Of course, many people will say "it never ends."
For others, it might be at the moment of birth. And it actually
ended long before that takes place.
I am not one of the hardliners on this subject.
I don't believe that it's a quick fade to black after the birth of the baby.
The more appropriate questions would be:
- How does the relationship mature?
- What are the new boundaries that need to be established?
- How does everyone evolve in a healthy way through the transition phase?
One of the best answers that I have heard so far (I will paraphase) from an experienced surrogate is:
At the end of each of my surrogacies, I plan a big trip for MY family to go on so that we can reconnect. The Surrogacy journey is a long road and takes a lot out of me and my family. We need time to get away and focus on us and enjoy time together.
For me, it's a very interesting time.
Your told to prepare for the roller coaster ride of IVF.
Prepare for the Two week wait.
Prepare for a Heart Beat.
Prepare for the Birth.
Prepare to bring home a baby.
Where are the instruction to prepare and transition from Intended Parent to Parent and Surrogate to Experienced Surrogate?