At the start of our pregnancy I read a book about President Lincoln and how his writing and speeches before and during the Civil War set the tone for our Nation to be able to re-unite even after 4 years of mutual destruction.
I have a quote from Lincoln that I keep going back to as I observe other couples going through Surrogacy and when I struggle through my own thoughts at times. This quote from the Civil War seems especially suited to Surrogacy.
"We are not enemies, but friends. We must not be enemies. Though passion may have strained, it must not break our bonds of affection. The mystic chords of memory, stretching from every living heart, will yet swell the chorus of the Union, when again touched, as surely they will be, by the better angels of our nature." Lincoln's First Inaugural Address, March 4, 1861.
What and who are the better angels of our nature?
Lincoln was suggesting these were humaneness, compassion, good will, tolerance, and other good things.
What lay ahead though was four years of savage war and 600,000 deaths before those positive values could be invoked again by Lincoln in his Second Inaugural Address, asking these better angels to bear "malice towards none, with charity for all . . ."
They way I see this connecting to Surrogacy World is straight forward.
Yes, there are hard times.
Yes, there is a struggle.
Yes, there is sacrifice.
And in the end "The Better Angels of our Nature" at least those within our surrogate -
"humaneness, compassion, good will, tolerance, and other good things."
Has made the impossible - possible.