When my wants start to overpower my needs, there needs to
be a re-balancing of my id, ego, and super-ego.
This is not about me, myself, and I.
"the it," "the I," and the Over I."
My id ("the it") doesn't want to take no for an answer and is only looking at the selfish answer.
My Super-ego ("the Over I") strives for me to act in a socially appropriate manner.
To find the perfect answer, and keep everyone happy.
My ego ("the I") separates what is real. It helps me to organize my thoughts and make sense of them and the world around us.
According to the reality principle:
In Freud's words, "an ego thus educated has become reasonable; it no longer lets itself be governed by the pleasure principle, but obeys the reality principle, which also at bottom seeks to obtain pleasure, but pleasure which is assured through taking account of reality, even though it is pleasure postponed and diminished"
I can hear Christy already..........
What are you talking about? What's your point?
The more mature me - looks at reality - over my emotions.
And reality tells me that the birth experience will be much smoother, easier, and comfortable
under these conditions.
Our surrogate stays in the comfort of her own home until D-Day, D-Hour.
Our surrogate has the delivery done by the OB that she has been seeing all along.
Our surrogates family is able to relax at the comfort of their own home and town.
Our surrogates families daily routine remains unchanged.
Their life can keep it's normal ebb and flow.
That we put them in the best situation possible.
So my point is -
The more mature me wants to know, "how do we make things best for her and her family?"